Much as I wish it could be, Toddlerism is not the complete source of information about how to accept being an adult baby or little – I was an adult baby all my life (before I became a little) and being open about it was not an issue for me. I understand a lot of adult babies/littles have problems accepting who they are, or have problems with others accepting who you are. For those people there is The Adult Baby’s Guidebook.
I should start with a disclaimer: The Adult Baby’s Guidebook was written by a great friend of mine, Brian Burch, and I had an extremely tiny hand in editing it. As such, I find it rather difficult to be completely objective about the book. However, I always strive to tell it like it is in all my writing, so I shall set my mind to ‘dispassionate’ and give you an overview.
Brian starts by acknowledging that the term adult baby covers a rather disparate group of people. I think this is a good thing to do as there is definitely not a right/wrong way to be an adult baby. I think this is an important point to make as people who refer to ‘true adult babies’ and the like are not only being divisive, they are also invalidating the experiences of a lot of people who are not so different to themselves.
Next Brian moves onto a section about growing up as an adult baby, this is based on his own life experience. I think a lot of people will identify with many of the experiences Brian endured. Even though I accepted myself as an adult baby pretty quickly, I still find much of this part of The Adult Baby’s Guidebook quite resonant, especially about feeling alone and being afraid if others would accept me.
Turns out I had neither had problems being accepted by people at school and university, nor by family members. Judging by what Brian went though it seems I was luckily to be assertive enough for it not to become an issue.
The final sections in The Adult Baby’s Guidebook are on accepting yourself as an adult baby. Again he draws a lot from his own experience in these sections – I think this is reasonable as he seems to have had the typical adult baby path to self-acceptance.
Well, he is lucky enough to have accepted himself; I know a lot of people never do and forever hide what is really a happy and loving side of their personalities. That is rather sad – if this sounds like you, definitely buy The Adult Baby’s Guidebook.
There are references to a number of sources who have things that might be of use to people who are having trouble accepting themselves or having others accept them. As an ultra-rationalist from the UK (where religion/spirituality holds far less sway than in the USA) I find he makes reference to a few ideas and authors that I find… erm… shall we say: philosophically questionable?
However, that is my own real criticism of the The Adult Baby’s Guidebook – and it is a product of Brian and me coming from different cultures. With that rider, I would say The Adult Baby’s Guidebook is worth getting, if only for reading that someone else has had the self-identity problems and family acceptance issues that you are likely to have experienced if you are an adult baby/little.
Brian writes in a very accessible and enjoyable style and, unless you suffer from chronic psychosis like me, The Adult Baby’s Guidebook is a swift, enlightening read (my psychosis only hampers the ‘swift’ bit, but my big brother whizzed through it). If you want guidance in accepting yourself, or you need help in getting others to understand this aspect of your personality, buying this book is a more useful place to drop your cash than on most of the age play books on Amazon. Click on the links below to buy a copy.